How to talk to your crush - 10 ways to approach your crush

The thought of striking a conversation with your crush could make you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach.

But if you take things slow, and focus on the three stages mentioned in the introduction, the attention stage, the chemistry stage and finally the conversation stage, you’d realize that even before you start talking to your crush, your crush would already have a crush on you!

The easiest way to chat up a crush is by asking them for help. If you notice your crush standing nearby, pretend like you’re looking for something, a book or a particular person. Look around dramatically and impatiently, and pretend like you’re almost panicking because you’re already late for something. And all of a sudden, lock eyes with your crush, and ask them a question, “hey… did you notice a book lying around here?” or “I’m sorry, but did you see a girl walk past here just now?”

Once your crush answers your question, continue to look around for a few more seconds, and exchange a fleeting glance, nod or smile and walk away like you’re flustered and busy. Don’t start a conversation here, or it’ll appear like you were just faking it to chat them up. There’s always a next time to talk to your crush for longer.

Comment on something your crush comments on, as long as both of you have a common friend. You don’t need to answer your crush directly, just be seen by them. Your crush will surely check your facebook page and try to get to know more about you.

You need to remember that the secret behind getting a crush to like you is to make them believe they’re the ones who are more curious about you!

And by C-word, I mean compliment. Have you ever received a compliment you didn't like?

Unless it's backhanded, "You look less tired than you normally do," compliments are a pleasure to receive. They're also a pleasure to give to others.

Safran agrees that compliments are usually the easiest way to go. You don't have to compare his eyes to the ocean, but you could mention that you like his shoes. Or better yet, the points he made at today's meeting.

"When you are perceptive to a part of your crush's character beyond the physical, it shows that you see him for who he is," Armet explains.

Your crush will feel good, and you will be the reason for it.

 When you’re walking past your crush and their friends aren’t around, just smile fleetingly or say hi to your crush. Don’t stop and chat though, just say hello and walk past them.

As long as you’ve built the chemistry up in the earlier stages, your crush would be waiting to talk to you the very next time both of you bump into each other.

  Do both of you share any common friends? Try to get to know them better. Don’t tell this friend about your crush. Instead, just try to strike up a conversation with the friend now and then. It’s a great way to get to know your crush without approaching them directly. 

 If you’re hanging out with your friends and your crush walks past you or sits down somewhere near you, use your friends to send the message across. When they tease you or constantly stare at your crush, it would embarrass your crush while making them fall for you harder

  If you bump into your crush, accidentally or otherwise, don’t be shy. Instead of walking away or looking the other way, smile, wave or say hello. Both of you have been exchanging glances for far too long to miss out on an opportunity like this! But keep the conversation short the first time.

Connect on Facebook or your smartphone right then and there during your interaction. Call each other while you’re chatting to save numbers. Get a card or email. It’s surprising how often the info will be freely given once you have made a true connection.

Studies show that most couples bond through repeated interactions before they ever go out on a date. So notice their patterns, try to run into them regularly. Or exchange texts on a consistent basis.

Attraction levels vary wildly as you get to know someone. A hottie may think you’re kind of cute at first, but then suddenly find themselves crushing on you as the two of you bond more.

One thing is for sure, in order to find the love of your life, you need to quit being intimidated by looks and practice connecting with hotties. Otherwise, you might accidentally rule out the person who might be the love of your life.